Why You Need To Know About The Dependence Syndrome?

Dependence syndrome
Courtesy: Health Goes Up

What is the first conclusion your mind jumps to when you read the aforementioned title? Wait! Before any of you click away from the article, let me clarify that this piece is neither related to complex medical phenomena nor is it related to economics in any way, shape or form. A term for the dilemma this ‘syndrome’ represents in actuality has not yet been coined- primarily why I have taken the liberty to give it a name. This piece is reflective of a very common practice in our part of the world- namely, parents bearing the burden of their adult-children relentlessly or as I like to call it – The dependence syndrome!

Imperative here is to take into account the fact that parents are meant to provide for the well-being (in all aspects) of their children for some part of the latter’s life- there is similarity in the practice of this very idea worldwide- after which period of time, they have to pave way for themselves in their own, unique ways. In other words, generally practiced around the world is the notion that once a kid turns eighteen (is a legal adult), they are allowed to blossom in the way that speaks to them the most.

In our part of the world, however, a young adult is seldom given the liberty to take a route that lets them explore the world in their own time. Irrespective of the child’s age (physical and academic), parents continue to provide for their children until the latter land themselves a ‘stable’ source of income. This stable source of income usually materializes quite sometimes after an adult has completed their undergraduate studies. In the meantime, all the student is required to do is to ‘focus on their education’. While the intention behind parents’ never-ending financial support, in this regard, is to build a better future for their children, they end up providing building blocks for the destruction of that very future.

In hindsight, when these people step into practical lives, they find it extremely hard to:

  1. Fit in.
  2. Cope with the stress/workload.
  3. Manage time.
  4. Manage finances.

The persistent prevalence of the aforementioned problems in as fast-paced a time as ours makes it incredibly difficult for people to stand in the face of adversity whilst also giving way to a number of mental illnesses amongst other social stigmas.

What the parents’ aforementioned attitude also aids and inculcates in the young adults is the idea of self-entitlement and the notion that they are above all else. Owing to being brought up in a set up that prefers spoon-feeding as opposed to interactive, hands on learning, it affects the person’s overall mental and physical growth. The constant financial support on the parents’ parts hinders their ability to learn to live and work on their own. It also gives rise to the notion that the parents will always be there, providing a cushion to fall back on, hence the dependence syndrome, when this ideation is quite far from reality.

Additionally, in a society like ours, people consider it beneath themselves to let their children work alongside studies owing largely to the prevalence of the ‘what will people say?’ mindset and that is the main culprit of the dependence syndrome.

Moreover, starting work at an early age has many additional benefits, some of which are mentioned below. Working from an early age:

  1. Helps pave way for smooth adult life.
  2. Helps teach teens/ young adults to save up efficiently.
  3. Helps them build their resumes.
  4. Helps them gain work experience.
  5. Helps them build contacts which can prove valuable in adult life.
  6. Helps them outline the career paths they would like to embark upon in the future.
  7. Helps them develop confidence and enhance concentration.
  8. Helps them fund their own higher education.
  9. Helps teach them balance.
  10. Helps the transition from teenage to adulthood relatively easy.
  11. Helps them spend their leisure time in a way that is beneficial in the longer run.
  12. And the search for part-time work makes it easy for adults to look for work opportunities.

To conclude, no shame should be felt if one starts to work at an early age. It is, in fact, rather beneficial in the longer run. Needless to mention, it paves the way for a better future that the parents dream of, in actuality.