Respect Comes First- The Muharram Trends!

Muharram - Let there be peace
Courtesy: The Islamic Post

As if being an imperfect Muslim is not adequate that we have the audacity to be less revering towards Islamic events of resplendent remarkableness as well. Every year, either upon arrival of RabiulAwwal or Muharram, we Pakistanis are found keenly perceiving it as the opportune eve of initiating religious wars. And hence, this is the time of the year again. Muharram 1441 Hijri has approached and so is a group among us is geared up, all passionate in airing the flames into Shia-Sunni fights, especially on social media. Twitter paces at the top speed in this regard where instead of remembering the tragedy of Karbala occurred in Muharram, we try our luck to prove personal point of views on religion and relative history. Instead of paying tributes to the noblest martyrs, we observe solace in bringing up debates about the sickening controversies. Most significantly, in spite of remembering the greatest sacrifice that the dear family of beloved Prophet (may peace be upon him) forged for the sake of revival of Islam; praying for them and narrating their stories as an inspiration and paying reverence, we indulge in what if(s) and shouldn’t(s) of antiquity that were unfolded prior or later the phenomenon, among the forefathers of the aforementioned divided sects. Let’s discuss harmony and peace this Muharram, let’s bring a positive approach of live and let others live without judging them.

This is the extent of dilemmic devastation we have positioned ourselves upon, that we are not even hesitant to declare and catfish on each other as “Kaafir”. Neither our tongues shiver for a nanosecond while calling the virtuous companions of Allah’s Apostle (p.b.u.h) with abusive words. This is nothing than our lowest that showcases our very personality, mindset and not to skip mentioning; the upbringing! We seem to long let go of the hard fact, that is, the detrimental hate that we are spreading upon the name of honorable personalities are the ones that the Prophet (p.b.u.h) each of them deeply loved and admired himself. This is only us, people who came after him, that have cultivated the differences that we are pulling off into practices till today.

But also, not everyone corrupts the holy atmosphere with hate speeches, some have taken the charge of teaching heartwarming peace and harmony extensively, just like this girl did through her Facebook status that we all venerate her for. The text goes like:


Neither I ever wanted to be. Panjatan Paak don’t need me to be Shia to love them. I love the household of my Prophet PBUH with all my heart. Being from a Sunni Sayyed family we are grown up with the love of Ahle Bayt in our hearts. My grandmother a pure Sunni woman told us about the role of Mola Ali in the battles of Badar, Uhud, and Khayber. First time in my life I got to know the background of ‘Man Kunto Maula Fa Haza Aliyun Maula’ from her, that made me think about the status of imam Ali in Islam. She would tell us several stories based upon the love of Mohammad PBUH for his grandchildren, our masters Iman Hassan and Imam Husayn. On every death anniversary of Bibi Fatema, my dadi arranges Niyaz, which she never lets any man from the house to see or eat, this is her way to believe Lady Zahra is the most pious woman of this universe. That’s how she respects her parda that she is known for. Tasbeeh e Fatima is one of the basic things to pray after Namaz was told by my mother. My mother used to read ‘Behishti Zewar’ and ‘Seerat e Fatima’ and would tell us about the dignity of the chief of all the women in the universe. In Moharram we were not allowed to watch movies/listen to songs. My dadi used to have the hold at tv remote and she literally would chide us for not watching documentaries about the incident of Karbala. Women of my family used to fast till 10th of Moharram. When we grew up, we were told to do the same so that we would realize the thirst of 72 martyrs of Karbala. These are the do’s and don’ts we are brought up with, that now, even being non-Shia we have enough respect and grief for this month in our hearts. We never have any functions in the month of Moharram in our family neither do we attend any (we try our best not to). We are not Shia, but we avoid doing make-up and being extra in these days as our hearts grieve for the tragedy happened these days back in 61AH. That’s not something we are adopting now to look like our Shia friends these are the basic morals our pure Sunni family gave us since we were little. I am proud that I am brought up this way. Alhamdulillah, my heart and eyes are able to cry on the tragedy of Karbala. My heart is not stamped with unnecessary hatred for my Shia fellows. Karbala is a lesson for the whole mankind, stop associating it with a particular sect. Like “haww are you Shia? You listen to nohay, you attend majlis, you share stuff from Shia pages”. Stop questioning! Spread love, there’s enough hatred already and believe me it’s taking you to nowhere. JazakAllah.”

We don’t believe that we necessitate to put anything up more besides since the lady said it all. The moral only lies in the idea to “live and let live”. If one is not capable, even being a Muslim, of paying due regard to the Karbala in Muharram tribulations that even the non-Muslim world highly approbates its innocent sufferers for and sheds tears after, then least he/she can do is to divert head from the matter and stay silent. Sunnis should cease themselves from criticizing Shite rituals and directing terms like “Kaafir” towards them and likewise, Shites should be decent towards those other than they believe in and refrain from quoting coded messages like “BULB” (God forbid). Ill aims at the religious sentiments on both the sides(sects) hurt similarly and shared art of tolerance blossoms both as well, and even increases space and will towards mutual understanding and kind considerations. So, let’s dare to pledge to proliferate positivity and brotherhood this Muharram only since divisions lead to more divisions that are already many, and because after all, before and with anything, respect should be the priority.